How was your year? Did you survive… I know you were a great sport and hope you aren’t to exhausted for the New Year.
My, how time flies. Four years to this day we welcomed Rosie and Marybelle to our family. Some ask how did I survive the first year with twins and big sister Stella? With a lot of grace, mercy and team work from my darling hubby.
You know someone who has twins too? Perfect.. I know you didn’t ask but here are some tips that helped me:
- Do you have a YMCA or gym with a great daycare? I managed with two hours of childcare per day at the gym. No, I didn’t go everyday but twice a week from 4-6. I would bring everyone’s bottle/dinner and they would feed them and all I had to do is bring them home, bath, story and bed. Sometimes I would take a shower, blow dry my hair and put my makeup on. (Hmm. When was I in the gym last? Oh yeah, gained 20 lbs this year so will return on January 5th.)
- Sitters: Have a list of 5 sitters in your rolodex at all times. (I am finally getting the hang of texting my sitters.) You ask how do you find a sitter? If you are new to living in Silicon Valley, I can suggest checking out your neighborhood online group Next Door and do a search. I am thinking someone might have already asked that question. Did you join a local mom’s group or church? Get to know your neighbors, (yes they could be friendly and invite you over for wine) they might have a daughter or know the other family down the street with the college student. SCORE!
- Weekly date night. Every Wednesday the sitter would come from 5-8. Are you thinking what, only three hours? Back when the kiddos were babies that was all the time we needed. The sitter would feed, bathe and put all the girls to bed by 7:30pm. Usually for date night we would go to the nearest mountain (hubby laughs and said it was a hill) and hike. Then we would go home after two hours and have wine and dinner outside on the patio.
- What is “Me” Time? How do you survive without me time? Hubby and I would take turns with “Me Time”. I would go out with the girls and then on the weekend he would hit the water (always windsurfing or surfing). Nice balance right?
- FaceTime with Oma and Opa the perfect 5 minute break. Do you have family in different time zones? Sometimes when you are home with the kiddos it’s perfect. Call them up and have them entertain the kids for five minutes or so. You need to hide in the restroom and respond to those texts from friends or check to see what the rest of the world is doing on Facebook? Perfect.
- Join all the mom groups you can in your area that are free. If you are like me, an extrovert, you might like to have options. One group that I love is MOPS. MOPS is a group designed for mothers who have kids from birth to kindergarten to meet and get encouragement. Okay to be more specific, every other week you meet at a “church” drop the kids off in childcare and you go to hang out with other moms and have hot coffee, hot breakfast and normally have a speaker, craft or something. I also love it because there is a “mentor mom” at each table to ask those tough questions or to get a big hug when needed. Here in Silicon Valley there are probably at least 25 different groups. It might take a few tries at groups but bound to find a match. Check out there MOPS and find one in your area.
- Befriend another mom with slightly older twins Yes, the benefit of hand me downs.
- The Official Group of National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs, Inc. has a great Facebook group with more than 19,000 members. Need I say more?
Do you have twin tips to share? I am getting into a new territory with the girls, they are FOUR and they politely let us know that they are no longer babies but big GIRLS. Ah the next adventure…..